If You Love Me…

If you love me, you will keep my commandments… In the love games we play, and in all aspects of human endeavors, maintaining positive relations with each other is a must, to live in harmony and peaceful coexistence with each other. The surest path to keeping good relations with our fellow humans is to know what their dos and don’ts are, and adhere strictly to the same. An infringement of the don’ts should be followed by a sincere apology. A blatant refusal to acknowledge our basic differences, thereby stepping on each other’s toes, is indicative of a lack of respect and by extrapolation, lack of love. True love is only found and kept, when both parties realize that they have …

How To Give A Great Gift Without Breaking The Bank

Let’s start with the big E …Expenditure I started with an outline budget of what I wanted to spend on this occasion. After I finished examining my expenditures for last year and created my new budget, I found a few less relevant categories that needed cutting out for this coming year. I especially found a great opportunity to save money in our “gift” category. See More First, I made the decision that my theme for this year would be gift giving from my heart. Last year as I had Christmas packages spread around the living room and was trying to sort them for mailing, I found myself thinking like Scrooge. I decided that wasn’t really a very good way to …

Safe Relationship Spaces

I have been counseling individuals, couples, families and business partners for the past 35 years and have numerous published books on the subject of relationships and relationship communication. Most of the couples I work with, even those in deep trouble when starting counseling with me, resolve their difficulties because they learn to create safe relationship spaces through a process called Inner Bonding (see how to download a free Inner Bonding course at the end of this article). In the depths of our souls we all yearn for love and connection with others. That yearning reflects a basic, even biological, human need. Infants, for example, thrive physically only when they feel deeply loved and cherished. As adults, we experience wrenching, soul-level …